To: Her

To: Her

Hey 16 year old me,

I hope all is well. I know you don't know me yet, but I'm the adult you. I'm the future that you dream about. I'm 38 years old and married (not to your high school sweetheart). You don't know him yet, but you'll meet him in about 14 years. Keep your eyes and heart open because if you don't, you'll miss him. You're going to meet your share of bachelor's along the way, but please don't sell yourself short. Many will be appealing to the eye, but will have absolutely no substance, so proceed with caution.

You also have 4 kids. Don't panic! And don't be afraid! I know it sounds like a lot, AND IT IS!!! But you'll do great at the end of the day. You're going to have tons of doubts about yourself as a parent, but don't worry, your kids will love you and learn from you. It may sound funny, but there will come a time that the same annoying things your mom says to you now, will eventually be said to your kids, almost word for word.

Even though you're in the middle of learning about yourself as a teenager, you'll do the majority of your personal growth as an adult. You're 16 now and you've already seen so many things. You've had to develop a thick skin to protect yourself, but don't allow that skin to harden into a barrier that nobody can get past. Keep the same vibrant love for your inner circle that you have now, and never let that go. You're going to experience things that you have no idea how you're going to get out of, but please trust me, YOU WILL SURVIVE!!! 

Your twenties will be a blur, but you'll enjoy them. Please try to take more caution over your life and don't be so wreckless. When your life takes turns (AND IT WILL), slow down a little. I know right now, your parents are just 2 more people in the world that don't understand you or what you're about, but please trust me, THEY DO! And the craziest part of it all? The stuff that they talk to you about is actually pretty accurate. Of course, times and society are going to be very different, but you'll grow right along with them.

Don't be afraid to let others in. I know the things you've experienced as a child have molded you, but don't let those things hold you back. These things will be tools for you later in life, and the kids that will be under your wing in the future will depend on your truths. And you will eventually take a long break from writing because you'll be consumed with other things, but you'll experience something in your thirties that will bring you right back. Right now, you find joy in social scenes, friends, and a carefree environment, but later on, you'll find that joy will come from your heart and soul. You'll learn how to create your own peace, and your love for meaningless thrills will develop into a love for God and your family.

So please take care of yourself. Love yourself first. Stay strong, and learn from the lessons that lie ahead of you. You're going to be kicked down many times, but you will also get back up. Continue to be happy, and make others happy.

Love ALWAYS, 

Perfection vs Reality

Perfection vs Reality