I remember when I was a girl, so curious about life and the simplest things. I used to remember watching my mom clean, or get dolled up to go out to dinner, or cook; I used to love to watch her cook. I don't ever remember seeing my mom get into a yelling match with anyone, and I don't remember seeing her upset too often. I remember her being very attentive to me. She was a "hands on" mom, very involved in my schools, and was very nurturing, but she also had a firm hand, and demanded her respect.
All that to say this, I have 3 daughters and a son. I wonder how they see me. I wonder how I look through their eyes. I wonder if they feel fulfilled that I'm in their lives. This is especially true with my 2 oldest. She's 15 and he's 11. I haven't always been in their lives. They have memories that don't include me. But I'd like to think that I've still had a major role in molding them into the little people they are. To my 2 younger girls, I'm all they know.
In a world of constant social media, too much coffee, and a lawsuit for everything, it's really made me think of us as women. I know times are different now, than when they were when I was young. But I would like to think that the core of everything womanly has stayed the same.
It's important to be tuned in to the kind of picture we're painting for our kids, especially our daughters. Do they always hear us yelling? Do they see us crying all the time? How do we react to life in front of our kids? If they were blindfolded would our kids know our laugh? What words do we use to describe our kids? I've thought of all this. Kids are very observant, they intake the things we'd think they'd skip right over. And they lock it up in their little mental brains. I worry more about making sure all my "lessons" are fully absorbed by them before they leave the nest, but as you know, most of our life lessons occur once we're out from under our parent's roof.
We need to be mindful of the type of woman we portray ourselves to be. Not just to our kids, but any generations after us. Give them something to look up to. Something to be proud of. And not just to girls, but young men as well.