I know a girl (part 2)....
I know a young woman who had gone through a rough divorce. Seven years had gone by, and she found herself reflecting on some good advise she was told when she first got married: "You HAVE to be an indvidual." She dated often, but still never opted for exclusivity. She always kept her options open in case the bottom ever fell out. She took care of herself, and depended on nobody. She found herself being "born again" as an individual.
I know a woman who longed for a companion, a partner in life, but had become doubtful that she'd ever find her match. The men she was used to often missed their mark to keep her happy or even interested. But she never fully gave up, she just didn't set expectations for them. She refused to believe that all men had the same motive, or that all men would hit or cheat.
I know a woman who found a man that was handsome, exciting, and full of life experiences. Over time, she realized that he had a strong backbone, he was a leader, and deeply cared for her. She often doubted if this was for real, or wondered what major flaw he was hiding that would turn her away. Time after time he had proven himself capable of understanding, handling, and really loving her. And even though this was everything she ever wanted, it scared her at the same time.
I know a woman that was told several times that she would never have kids of her own. A terrible accident had made her unable to carry children. She had known this for many years and had come to terms with the fact that she'd never have children of her own, but she still yearned to nurture and love something that depended on her for life. So she adopted a dog and named her Rela. Rela filled the void of having an actual child.
I know a wife that realized it's ok to depend on her partner, and that all men aren't out to get her. Not all men are abusive. Not all men are lazy. Some men actually adore their wives, and will put her FIRST. It seemed way too good to be true, because she had never seen a true partnership before where both parties gave 100%. But she grew to love and FULLY trust him too.
I know a mother who has 4 kids. She struggles for sanity at times, but thinks back on when she wanted kids so bad. She has learned to grow right along with her kids. They have taught her some of the most valuable lessons life has to offer. She has made mistakes, but isn't afraid to admit when she's wrong. She has firmly planted her roots in her family, and uses the downs in her life to lift her up. She believes it's her job and purpose to heal the wounded and to pour into her kids the same things she yearned for as a child; security, love, stability, and peace.
All of these girls/women are me. I've learned to take my struggles with courage, and my victories with a humble heart. I've lost people close to me and experienced hardships that I wouldn't wish on anyone, which has allowed me to appreciate the things I have in my life. I've worked hard to see the silver lining, because IT'S THERE.