Sticks and Stones....
Do you remember that old saying "Sticks and stones may hurt my bones, but words will never hurt me"? As a kid, that was a defense mechanism when others would say mean things. And that's what we teach children, to not let other people's words hurt their feelings, brush it off, and ignore it. But I've learned as an adult, that words can actually do a lot of damage, maybe not physically, but mentally and emotionally.
I know for a fact that I've said horrible things to people, whether it be out of anger, or just out of spite. There have been countless times that I've had to go back and apologize or try to make amends for what I've said, sincerely. When I was younger, I didn't put too much thought into what I said to others. I spoke my mind with absolutely no regard of people's feelings. Nowadays, I put more thought into the actual words that come out of my mouth. I consider the person I'm talking to, and how they might receive my words. Some people are just direct, and don't beat around the bush. While others may need information given to them on a pillow. Neither way, in my opinion, is wrong, but it IS wrong if you don't consider that when talking to people.
You have the ability to give life to people through your words. You also have the ability to crush a person's spirit. It's never my intention to hurt anyone, but I know I have. And I've gone back and asked for forgiveness to many people, including my own kids. The words you speak to others can either kill or uplift. Which do you prefer to speak, and which do you prefer to receive?